IN THE MARGINS: The dream that won’t quit (because God hasn’t)

By Tony Martin
Editor

You know that project, goal, dream, or desire you just can’t shake? Maybe it’s a book outline gathering dust, a business idea that never got off the ground, a ministry nudge you’ve postponed, or a health goal you’ve promised you’d start “next Monday.” You tried before, got discouraged, and moved on — or tried to. But every so often it flickers back to life like a pilot light in your soul.

What if that persistent spark isn’t stubbornness, but grace?

Scripture names the ache we feel when efforts stall: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs 13:12, ESV). Deferred hope is real. It can dull our joy and steal our energy. But deferred doesn’t mean denied. “For still the vision awaits its appointed time… If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay” (Habakkuk 2:3). God’s timeline is rarely our timeline, yet it’s never off by a minute.

Here’s the un-pressured truth: if a desire is God-ordained — aligned with His character, consistent with Scripture, and confirmed by wise counsel — its persistence is often a clue that He isn’t done forming you through it. We are “His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand” (Ephesians 2:10). That dream may be less about producing something flashy and more about becoming someone faithful.

Let me say this plainly: your past attempts do not disqualify you. Failure is data, not destiny. The apostle Paul reminds us that God finishes what He starts: “He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” (Philippians 1:6). And if you feel fragile right now, hear this promise: “A bruised reed he will not break” (Isaiah 42:3). Jesus doesn’t snap the tender places; He strengthens them.

So how do you begin — again — without drowning in pressure? Try this gentle, grace-paced restart:

1. Name it and narrow it.

Write one clear sentence that captures your God-honoring aim. Then ruthlessly narrow the first version. If your dream is “write a book,” your first milestone becomes “write a 300-word testimony page.” If your goal is “launch a business,” your first milestone becomes “talk to three potential customers this week.” Don’t despise small beginnings (see Zechariah 4:10). They’re not beneath you; they’re the exact size God often uses to grow trust, skill, and momentum. Pray Proverbs 16:3: “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” Then choose a doable, visible first win.

Pro tip: Put a time boundary on it — 20 focused minutes. A tiny, repeated action beats a grand, imaginary plan every day of the week.

2. Put it on the calendar and lower the friction.

Desire without a date stays a daydream. Block your first three “seed sessions” now — same time, same place, low drama. Set up your environment so the start is almost automatic: notes visible, shoes by the door, water bottle filled, document open. Remove decisions from the front end. Trust God with the results; take stewardship of the next action. “In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:6).

Pro tip: End each session by writing down the very next, smallest action. Tomorrow-you should never have to figure out where to begin — just execute.

3. Build an encouragement loop.

God designed growth to be communal. “Let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works… encouraging one another” (Hebrews 10:24–25). Tell two trusted friends what your next tiny step is. Ask them to check in on a specific day. Share your “done list,” not just your to-do list. Celebrate obedience over outcomes. And if discouragement returns (it will), borrow someone else’s hope for a day. Ecclesiastes says, “Two are better than one… if either falls, one can help the other up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10, paraphrase).

Pro tip: Tie a simple reward to consistency, not perfection. Miss a day? Don’t spiral — restart in the next 24 hours. Grace moves at the speed of the next faithful step.

A word about discernment: not every persistent desire is from God. Hold your dream with open hands. Ask, “Does this reflect Jesus? Will it serve people? Am I willing to obey even if nobody applauds?” Invite the Spirit to refine the motive and the method. Sometimes He redirects the dream. Sometimes He resizes it. Sometimes He says, “Not yet.” But He never wastes the longing when we lay it before Him. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4) — which often means He reshapes our desires to match His heart, then supplies what we need to walk them out.

Here’s my prayer for you: “Lord, thank You for planting hope that refuses to die. Give wisdom to start small, courage to keep going, and grace to trust Your timing. Establish the work of these hands” (see Psalm 90:17).

That dream that won’t quit? Maybe it’s because the One who called you hasn’t. And that’s really good news. Keep your steps small, your heart soft, and your eyes on Jesus. The tree of life grows from seeds like these.